My Solo Self-Care Weekend in Wellington

Food, Lifestyle, Personal

Sometimes, you just need a solo self-care weekend in your favourite city. For me, that will always be Wellington, New Zealand – the city of vibrant culture, friendly people, and delicious food. I timed my weekend away with the opening of the Wonderland exhibition at Te Papa Museum, and tried to fit in as much of my favourite pastime as possible: reading and brunch!

A little insight as to why I took this trip: when I booked it, I wasn’t in a great mental space. I was stressed and overwhelmed, and whenever this happens, I think it’s important to take some time out for yourself and work out what isn’t working; what isn’t aligned in your life. A lot of the time, remembering who you are; coming home to yourself is key.

When people ask you, ‘Who are you?’ or ‘Describe yourself’, you’d typically list things related to your job title, where you live, and your roles in life, whatever those may be. For example, I am a fiancée, an employee, a friend, a colleague, a daughter, a sister. For others, it may also be: mother, father, teacher. When you spend your time and energy in a way that eventually drains them all on fulfilling your roles in relation to others, but not on fulfilling your own goals, dreams and aspirations, you lose sight of what you want. You’re not living your life; you’re living a life chosen for you by others. You’re living from obligation and expectation rather than authenticity and alignment. 

This weekend away was meant to be my way of ‘troubleshooting’ what felt wrong. At home in Auckland, I rarely have any real alone time. It’s rare at work as it is at home, living with two others (my fiancé and his best friend) – more often than not, I can hear noises from video games, my cat whining (though it is cute!), or simply traffic from the busy road we live off.

Just as quiet and solitary time is essential for meditation, it’s essential for going within. It’s simply good for the soul.  

Fortunately, it was early November when this was booked; by the time I went to take this trip away, I was in a much better, lighter mental space so got to dedicate this trip more to enjoying being back in my favourite city than self-reflection (which I still did – see end of this blog). I hope that no matter where you are in life, you always feel like you’re in control of your destiny; that you’re living a life you’ve consciously chosen for yourself. 

Here’s what I got up to when I flew back to my second home for a short & sweet getaway… ❤ 

What We Have in Common

Personal, Prose, Spirituality

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I wonder what we have in common. No, not how many siblings we have, or where we went to school; I mean the way we see this exciting, mysterious and ever-changing experience we call life. If we are both fascinated by the idea that our souls reincarnate from one life into the next. If we both want to believe that we are all made of the same timeless energy. If reading fills our soul because it feels like we have access to every recorded bit of knowledge or spark of inspiration of every human being that’s ever lived, across time and space. If stargazing and staring in awe of the full moon makes you feel the same profound sense of amazement, and the vastness of the night sky makes your problems seem small.

If the same indie song makes you feel like someone, somewhere out there understands the real you, and not who you pretend to be. If the very same romantic sci fi movie took your breath away and left you haunted for days. If we have both felt the heartbreaking pain and emptiness of losing a loved one. If we are both homesick for a city we hold dear to our heart, whether or not it was ever truly our home.

If we have felt the same gut-wrenching loneliness yet pure joy and euphoria the first time we travelled solo. If reading about the great Greek gods and goddesses inspires and moves you. If being referred to as ‘mortals’ feels strangely beautiful because it reminds you that there is a higher power in the universe, and that our lives are short and precious.

If reading and writing poetry & prose, fantasy & fiction, recharges you, and singing in unison with a thousand strangers at a concert makes you feel connected to humanity. If exploring this world and learning about our place in the universe makes us feel most alive.

My head asks my heart why I’m drawn to you; how do I know you?

I don’t. But my heart knows that you and I are one and the same.

 

My Favourite Poetry Books | Love, Life, Loss, Inspiration

Books, Food, Lifestyle, Personal

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Poetry has a way of articulating what we feel in our hearts but don’t always know how to express. They make art out of our life experiences, and find beauty in the mundane. Poetry romanticises little miracles we experience on any given day – whether it’s related to love, loss, heartbreak, purpose, or finding yourself. 

I am currently in the process of grieving and processing my emotions after what has been a very tough week. For days, I was in denial and shock as I did what I could to avoid the pain and heaviness in my heart. Today, feeling in much need of self-care and inspiration, I took myself out on a brunch date at a local cafe – taking with me my entire poetry collection (so far). And I’m excited to share with you my favourite poetry books that have stirred my soul and won my heart. 

I truly believe that poetry, among other forms of art, make life worth living. Coming from someone who is passionate about personal finance and has worked in insurance, banking and tax, I feel life would be boring and meaningless without frequent reminders of what we love and live for. Why we get up in the morning; what we work so hard for. What are we really chasing? 

I don’t think it is an uncommon thing to wonder. I recently had a meeting with the Books manager at my workplace. When I confessed my love for self-help, spiritual, personal finance, and poetry books, she told me a fun fact: poetry book sales soar during university semester breaks and during the New Year. Could it be fair to say that poetry helps us and inspires us to look within, find magic in every day, dream bigger dreams, and become better versions of ourselves, at times we feel most compelled?

Here are some books which, for me, have done exactly that. 

Our Cosy Wellington Getaway

Food, Lifestyle, Personal

Hi friends, I hope you’re having a wonderful and relaxing Easter weekend!

Last weekend, my fiancé and I went on a little weekend getaway to my favourite city and second home: our capital, Wellington, New Zealand. We stayed two and a half days, which while short was plenty of time for us to see an incredible exhibition, eat delicious food, rest and recharge, and simply enjoy each other’s company. The purpose of our trip was to see the Terracotta Warriors at Te Papa Museum and celebrate my fiancé’s birthday. Happy Birthday, my love!

Food | What We Ate in Melbourne

Food, Lifestyle, Personal

Last month, my partner and I spent an amazing week in our favourite city – Melbourne, Australia.. Where we got engaged!! 

Aside from this incredibly exciting news, another highlight of our time in Melbourne was, unsurprisingly, the food! Today I’d love to share with you some of the places we visited and warmly recommend.

My year-long lesson in failure, success, & self love

Lifestyle, Personal

Yesterday I woke up to some brilliant news. My phone rang the moment I hopped out of bed; a moment of divine synchronicity. On the other end: a job offer!!!

It was the light at the end of a tunnel that had seemed to go on for a long time. You see, this is more than just a job offer to me.

For many people, a new job isn’t that hard to get. Even for me, a new job wasn’t that hard to get – it always only took a month or two. That is, until this year.

Manifesting My Dream Life

Lifestyle, Personal

Manifesting My Dream Life

Hi friends,

I hope you’re all having a fantastic week! Mine has been wonderful, following a weekend at the Cherry Blossom Festival in the Waikato, then going to a friend’s cosy birthday dinner. We also visited my partner’s parents – where, much to my joy, I got to take some beautiful cherry blossoms home. Our house now feels very special and sentimental: handmade candles made by me, a handmade wooden shelf made by my partner, and homegrown cherry blossoms from his parents. I even bought some pohutukawa flowers to decorate and I couldn’t be happier!

This Monday was absolutely perfect. My day was nothing special, but consisted of everything that is, for me, synonymous with simplicity, joy, and pure bliss:

I woke up mid-morning, around 10am. I ate a real breakfast, admired my fresh flowers, and worked on my photography. I went out and picked up new candle jars & fragrances, then shopped for organic food & essential oils.

In the evening, I came home to realise that I was living the life I had always wanted – and that I had manifested it all.

Let me explain. When I got home, my heart was feeling so full that I remember wishing I could bottle up some of my happiness and save it for a rainy day. I was recalling all the things that had made my day so wonderful, when something hit me: it somehow sounded very familiar. Could it be..?

I immediately searched through my old 2016 and 2017 diaries, and there they were. Times when I had dreamt, written, and ultimately manifested the life of my dreams. Proof that the Law of Attraction, and manifestation, however slow and gradual, is real.

Here’s what was written in my diary on 25th April 2017:

Being Happy & Grateful in the Here and Now

Books, Lifestyle, Personal, Spirituality

Last week, I learned something profound: how to be immensely happy & grateful; right here, right now. For someone who is prone to beating themself up for past mistakes or worrying about the future, this was life changing.